Why Am I So Self-Centered And Feel Superior?

Do you have a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g, expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)?

Are you preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, or beauty?

Do you believe that you are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people?

Do you require excessive admiration?

Do you have a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with your expectations)?

Are you interpersonally exploitative (i.e., taking advantage of others to achieve your own ends)?

Do you lack empathy (are you unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others)?

Are you often envious of others or do you believe that others are envious of you?

Do you show arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes?

While it is unlikely that you have a serious problem related to being self-centered and feeling better than others, you may be displaying some signs related to it. Self-centeredness is by most people seen as the most unattractive personality trait. People mostly try to maintain a sense of understanding and empathy towards others. Self-centered people, however, don’t find it necessary or important to consider other people’s feelings. You can train yourself to become a little less self-centered, by for example forcing yourself to say ‘thank you’ when someone helps you out. Also, make sure to make eye-contact with the person you are interacting with and show that you are listening.

While it is unlikely that you have a significant problem with being self-centered and feeling superior, you may be displaying several signs related to a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). NPD is a disorder in which someone has inflated self-esteem and sense of their own importance. You may want to learn how to be more focused on others instead of yourself, even if you have to ‘fake it’. For example, make sure to make eye-contact with others when interacting and try to really listen to what they say. Besides, you may want to remind yourself to always say ‘thank you’ when someone does something for you. It may be useful to ask your doctor for advises.

Unfortunately, you are displaying the symptoms typically seen among individuals who have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). NPD is a mental disorder in which someone has inflated self-esteem and sense of their own importance. They experience a lack of empathy for others and feel a deep need for admiration. However, deep inside they have a very vulnerable self-esteem. NPD causes many problems in relationships, school, work and financially. People with NPD may feel unhappy, especially when they are not admired or treated in a special way like they believe they deserve. Receiving treatment can help make your life more satisfying and rewarding.