Am I Being Used By My Partner?

Does your partner make you feel uncomfortable?

Are your friends and family worried about you and your relationship?

Are you making excuses for being treated badly?

Are your needs not being met by your partner?

Does your partner make you feel small or worthless?

Are you not satisfied with the dynamics of the relationship?

Do you have a hard time saying no to your partner?

Does your partner never give anything in return?

While it is unlikely that you are being used by your partner, you may be displaying one or two signs related to it. It can happen in any type of relationship, whether it be your friends or your partner. When someone is being used, they are often sacrificing their own needs for another person in order to fill a void. Make sure to be honest with yourself about what is really going on and talk about it with your partner. If he or she is not willing to change, you may want to think again if the relationship is really worth it for you. In case you answered ‘no’ to all questions, there may be no reason to worry!

Based on your answers, you are displaying several signs related to being used by your partner. Ideally, a relationship has a lot of give and take. However, being used in a relationship is far more common than we think or would like it to be. We all know what being used looks like on someone else, but we are often afraid to think we are a victim of it ourselves. It is really important to be honest with yourself about what is happening in your relationship. The key is to know and recognize the signs, no matter how difficult it is to admit.

Unfortunately, you are displaying the signs typically seen among individuals who are being used by their partner. If you really like your partner, it may be very difficult for you to admit that you are being used. It may feel embarrassing, because it means that they are not as into you as you are into them. But that’s all on them. Just make sure to get yourself out of this situation and fill yourself up with self-care. That is, engage in different fun activities, seek social contacts, and foster meaning through work, study or anything else you do. This will help you to build yourself up enough to no longer be used by anyone.